emotional logic

How could "self-help" possibly be violent? gasp

I was working with someone the other day and the harshest voice in the room was the voice of "self-help." It was mean. It wasn't what she...

The "Self-Love Myth" is Bullshit

I recently came back from a trip to Colombia with a friend from there. Watching people make plans, reach out, talk about big feelings,...

My childhood was normal + fine, I shouldn't feel so off / like something's wrong with me / w

I hear this all the time and have 2 things to say right out of the gate. "normal" and "shouldn't" Normal. Our childhood is always our...

It's not Karma. You just stepped in shit. Period.

On Sunday I stepped in dog shit. This was after someone left me high and dry owing $800. And after my transmission broke and I found...

What if the Voice in my head is right and I'm a Loser, AND a Fool for not believing it?

While I was talking with an amazing woman in a session yesterday she voiced this concern. "If I stop believing the nasty voice in my...

When we don't feel like playing - Pema Chodron + Shane Koyczan

Play and not-play are two sides of the same penny. We can't get one without the other. Play isn't devoid of substance. It's deep, and...

The elephant in the room (or why talking doesn't work)

I tell you you're awesome and you don't believe me. I tell you you're awesome - one thousand times. Your friend tells you you're awesome...

Should we really fake it till we make it? Amy Cuddy's TED talk

"Your body language shapes who you are." Amy Cuddy presents one of my favourite TED talks. She talks about sticking your arms in the air...

The birth of a group (and why working with others is a radical politicalpersonalphysiologicalsocialc

The first part is a blog I wrote years ago about the birth of a group of women clowns/performance artists that I'm part of. The second...

Permission Slips - Don't run over yourself

The following list is from a soap box I was standing on a few years ago. Something a friend and I dreamed of speaking through a megaphone...

Emotional Correctness Over Being PC

Words are important. The words we choose have an impact on others and the culture we are creating. Words aren't everything. They are the...

Mr. Rogers + Marina Abramovic: the radical act of slowing down

What drew people to Mr. Rogers even though he always seemed ridiculously slow to me? Why were people transformed and moved to tears when...

"Am I overreacting?"- You may appreciate a dirty plate metaphor

(Dirty plate metaphor sounds just a bit sexy...do read on. ;) There are those times when someone, especially a special someone, doesn't...

Why we might be scared of clowns, or anyone for that matter.

I just read an article in GQ (?!) entitled "Look, Man, You're Not Actually Scared of Clowns," which has got me to again revisit this...

vulnerability vs. openness: what's the difference + why does it matter.

There's been a lot of talk lately about vulnerability (thanks Brene Brown). In a way I see it as our culture using our giant brains and...

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