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unleashing ridiculous genius  / applying emergent neuroscience / building healthy nervous systems / sustaining 'aha' moments / teaching presence, performance + play / instigating social art / metamorphosing culture / coaching presence / exposing humour / shifting paradigms in mental health / busting self-help myths / unearthing play / (not-your-stereotypical) clowning / slowing down the monkey mind

March 25, 2020

At the risk of spreading yet another Covid-19 myth, I am using velcro as a metaphor for why some people seem to be covered in Covid-19 fear, and others, not so much. 

I'm not talking about someone with the very real risk of a compromised immune system, respiratory illness, or financial hardship. I'm not talking about the very real precautions that we need to take.

But rather about those of us checking Facebook obs...

November 2, 2018

I was working with someone the other day and the harshest voice in the room was the voice of "self-help."

It was mean. It wasn't what she was saying, it was the tone.

  • "I just want to be my best self."

  • "I need to go for a run."

  • "I set a goal and just couldn't reach it."

  • "I want to live a full life."

  • "I don't want to settle."

  • "I don't understand why I can't do the self-care I need to to feel better."

  • ...

April 20, 2018

(Art by Lorenzo Bosi) 

I have a theory that there are 2 kinds of loneliness.

I know this is false because any kind of binary is automatically going to have holes in it. I get it.

In the meantime this theory is brought to you by my understanding of the nervous system as well as by watching myself feel so f-ing alone in moments even though I could make a list of people that love me. In the moment I feel f-ing alone, "none of those...

February 28, 2018

I recently came back from a trip to Colombia with a friend from there. Watching people make plans, reach out, talk about big feelings, and make more plans, I woke up to the fact that what I was finding most perplexing was the absence of shame. They shamelessly reached out to others.

Even when people broke plans, there were so many plans being made around, and after, and before, that no one ever seemed to be left stranded o...

December 1, 2017

I hear this all the time and have 2 things to say right out of the gate.

"normal" and "shouldn't"


Our childhood is always our "normal." It's all we know.

"It's normal that people don't have time for me and I spend lots of time alone"

"It's normal that I have to take care of others because the people around me are anxious."

"It's normal that I have to take charge because no one else will."

It's our default; our baseline; our "...

October 31, 2017

On Sunday I stepped in dog shit.

This was after someone left me high and dry owing $800.

And after my transmission broke and I found myself on the side of the road with 2 kids in the back seat of a car packed for a move.

And after I called the tow truck.

And in the middle of an hour long melt down on the ferry of a 5 year old who wanted "special pens."

And in the midst of this Sunday, a woman helped me walk my house plants dow...

October 7, 2017

While I was talking with an amazing woman in a session yesterday she voiced this concern.

"If I stop believing the nasty voice in my head, and actually start to believe I'm a dignified and ok human, will I make a fool of myself? What if everyone else still sees that i'm awful but I'm walking around thinking I'm ok?"


"What if I have a giant tumour on my forehead and I'm a fool for not believing it's rea...

September 1, 2017

I entered a long parade of visitors up to my friend's house, bringing chocolate as she had just broke her foot. I followed the guy helping her with her knee crutch and the little girl bringing her gifts from the forest. We sat on the floor because crawling was for now her main mode of transportation.

we spoke about how being around other people keeps our 'crazy' at bay.

I'm not talking about the deep long hippy st...

July 26, 2017

Speaking to the wonderful Gloria Macarenko on CBC in an interview on play, I got stumped.

Gloria: This city is expensive. What do you say to people who say play is a luxury and one more thing they can’t fit into their lives as they try to survive?

What are some take-aways for how these people can bring more play into their lives?

Me: Good question. Uh, uhh play isn’t a luxury it’s a necessity if we don’t want to get stuck as soci...

July 17, 2017

Play and not-play are two sides of the same penny.

We can't get one without the other. Play isn't devoid of substance. It's deep, and powerful and significant.  

The better we know "not-play" the more we can PLAY and the juicier it'll be.

Pema Chodron says that in order to know fearlessness you must know fear. You must turn towards the dragon, stand eye to eye with it, and smile. Then you'll know courage.

This feels tr...

July 6, 2017

I tell you you're awesome and you don't believe me.

I tell you you're awesome - one thousand times.

Your friend tells you you're awesome - one thousand times.

And even your respected and esteemed colleague tells you you're awesome - yes, one thousand times.

We don't just tell you this, we tell you this in various creative ways, sometimes naming specific things that are awesome, sometimes we are vague. We follow all the self-h...

June 29, 2017

"Your body language shapes who you are."

Amy Cuddy presents one of my favourite TED talks. She talks about sticking your arms in the air like superwoman for two minutes in order to CHANGE THE CHEMICALS IN YOUR BODY and make you feel more like superwoman.

In her study she discovered that by doing this Cortisol (the stress hormone), lowers, and testosterone (a hormone that helps propel us into action), rises. She scientifically pr...

June 21, 2017

The first part is a blog I wrote years ago about the birth of a group of women clowns/performance artists that I'm part of. The second part is a voice memo I recorded to them all more recently.


About two months ago this thing happened and I got to experience


I received a group “there’s-so-much-going-on-in-my-world” email, one of those that occasionally makes you (by you, I mean me) feel like all t...

June 8, 2017

The following list is from a soap box I was standing on a few years ago. Something a friend and I dreamed of speaking through a megaphone in the skytrain station.

You’re allowed

…to be sad even if it’s not raining and your mother wants you to be ok
…to be happy, even if other people are not, even if the state of the world terrifies you
…to have a boring story, a boring day, a boring week
…to not know such and such a reference ev...

June 3, 2017

Words are important. The words we choose have an impact on others and the culture we are creating.

Words aren't everything. They are the external layer, the crust on the creme brûlée. Or the shell on a rotten egg.

I am nervous about political correctness if it's at the expense of driving all the feelings underground and covering it up with new wallpaper or a toasty crusty creme brulee top. 

Three examples of how PC language is no...

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