March 25, 2020

At the risk of spreading yet another Covid-19 myth, I am using velcro as a metaphor for why some people seem to be covered in Covid-19 fear, and others, not so much. 

I'm not talking about someone with the very real risk of a compromised immune system, respiratory...

November 2, 2018

I was working with someone the other day and the harshest voice in the room was the voice of "self-help."

It was mean. It wasn't what she was saying, it was the tone.

  • "I just want to be my best self."

  • "I need to go for a run."

  • "I set a goal and just couldn'...

April 20, 2018

(Art by Lorenzo Bosi) 

I have a theory that there are 2 kinds of loneliness.

I know this is false because any kind of binary is automatically going to have holes in it. I get it.

In the meantime this theory is brought to you by my understanding of the nervous system as we...

February 28, 2018

I recently came back from a trip to Colombia with a friend from there. Watching people make plans, reach out, talk about big feelings, and make more plans, I woke up to the fact that what I was finding most perplexing was the absence of shame. They shamelessly reached...

December 1, 2017

I hear this all the time and have 2 things to say right out of the gate.

"normal" and "shouldn't"

Normal.

Our childhood is always our "normal." It's all we know.

"It's normal that people don't have time for me and I spend lots of time alone"

"It's normal that I have to take...

October 31, 2017

On Sunday I stepped in dog shit.

This was after someone left me high and dry owing $800.

And after my transmission broke and I found myself on the side of the road with 2 kids in the back seat of a car packed for a move.

And after I called the tow truck.

And in the middle...

October 7, 2017

While I was talking with an amazing woman in a session yesterday she voiced this concern.

"If I stop believing the nasty voice in my head, and actually start to believe I'm a dignified and ok human, will I make a fool of myself? What if everyone else still sees tha...

September 1, 2017

I entered a long parade of visitors up to my friend's house, bringing chocolate as she had just broke her foot. I followed the guy helping her with her knee crutch and the little girl bringing her gifts from the forest. We sat on the floor because crawling was for now...

July 26, 2017

Speaking to the wonderful Gloria Macarenko on CBC in an interview on play, I got stumped.

Gloria: This city is expensive. What do you say to people who say play is a luxury and one more thing they can’t fit into their lives as they try to survive?

What are some take-away...

July 17, 2017

Play and not-play are two sides of the same penny.

We can't get one without the other. Play isn't devoid of substance. It's deep, and powerful and significant.  

The better we know "not-play" the more we can PLAY and the juicier it'll be.

Pema Chodron says that...

July 6, 2017

I tell you you're awesome and you don't believe me.

I tell you you're awesome - one thousand times.

Your friend tells you you're awesome - one thousand times.

And even your respected and esteemed colleague tells you you're awesome - yes, one thousand times.

We don't j...

June 29, 2017

"Your body language shapes who you are."

Amy Cuddy presents one of my favourite TED talks. She talks about sticking your arms in the air like superwoman for two minutes in order to CHANGE THE CHEMICALS IN YOUR BODY and make you feel more like superwoman.

In her study she...

June 21, 2017

The first part is a blog I wrote years ago about the birth of a group of women clowns/performance artists that I'm part of. The second part is a voice memo I recorded to them all more recently.

PART ONE

About two months ago this thing happened and I got to experience

THE...

June 8, 2017

The following list is from a soap box I was standing on a few years ago. Something a friend and I dreamed of speaking through a megaphone in the skytrain station.

You’re allowed

…to be sad even if it’s not raining and your mother wants you to be ok
…to be happy, even if...

June 3, 2017

Words are important. The words we choose have an impact on others and the culture we are creating.

Words aren't everything. They are the external layer, the crust on the creme brûlée. Or the shell on a rotten egg.

I am nervous about political correctness if it's at the e...

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